They'll help you connect with one another mentally and physically.
Sex is a big component of most intimate relationships. Although it's often thought of as something that we do with another person that we're already very bonded with, sex can also be used to build that bond.
Whether you're fostering a connection in a new relationship or rekindling the flame of a well-established love, these 5 sex positions are guaranteed to make you even closer to your partner.
Missionary
It's often seen as the most basic of sex positions, but that doesn't mean it's boring. And missionary is actually ideal for bonding, because the position makes it easy to connect with each other through sight, sound, and touch, says psychosexual therapist Sara Nasserzadeh. Whisper or breathe in your partner's ear, make eye contact, and feel your bodies connected from head to toe. That, Nasserzadeh says, is an irresistible way to facilitate bonding.
Doggy style
This position, where partners are facing away from each other and connecting from behind, may not seem the most intimate, but it facilitates one of the best ways to bond: shared orgasms. For women, this position gives deep penetration that can lead to immense pleasure, Nasserzadeh says. "This is a high-adrenaline-rush physical act, and having that shared experience will increase bonding," she says.
Standing in the shower
Sex in the shower allows you to take it long and slow, says sexologist Eric Marlowe Garrison. The warm water, ambient noise, and fresh scents will relax you and allow you to really connect with your partner, while the water provides extra lubrication that is great for mind-blowing sex.
Stand back to chest facing the long wall of the shower, so that both partners are in the warm water. Massage each other and enjoy your full bodies touching before the man enters from behind, reaching around for nipple or clitoral stimulation. Pro tip: Silly though it may sound, take steps to avoid slipping. A bath mat or even rubber-soled shoes like Crocs can go a long way in making your shower sex unforgettable for all the right reasons.
Spooning
Having sex while wrapped in a constant embrace will raise your levels of oxytocin (sometimes known as the cuddle hormone) and PEA (a neurotransmitter that ups your mood and is associated with bonding), according to sex therapist Debra Laino. The partner lying behind can use his hands to caress his lover, and can whisper into her ear for added romance.
Seated lotus
This position offers the face-to-face intensity of missionary with the excitement of a new position. One partner sits with legs loosely crossed, while the other is on top with legs wrapped around the partner's back. Here, your bodies are touching entirely, and your faces are close enough to kiss, whisper, or laugh together, says sex therapist Rachel Needle. For added intensity, the person on top can focus on slow, sensual movements, she says.
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