There’s nothing more frustrating - and, truthfully, even hurtful-than when you notice your husband losing interest in sex. When he says, “I’m too tired,” or you realise he hasn’t initiated sex in several months, your mind almost immediately goes to the worst possible reasons behind it: Is he not attracted to me anymore? Is he unhappy? Is he having an affair?

“Society makes us think that it’s abnormal if a man isn’t wanting sex all the time,” says couples therapist Cynthia Pizzulli. “So if my man doesn’t want sex all the time, something must be wrong with me. He doesn’t desire me anymore. Oh my God, it’s a catastrophe, we’re going to end up divorced.”

But the truth is, it’s normal for sexual intimacy to change over the course of any relationship, especially one that’s so long-term like a marriage. The important thing is that if you notice your husband shying away from sex more regularly and that’s negatively affecting you as a result, you should identify it as an issue together and work toward a solution.

“A lack of sexual intimacy is a couple’s related issue, not an individual issue,” says Pizzulli. “The woman needs to avoid being the victim.”

Here are six common reasons your husband might be losing interest in sex-and what you can do to reignite the spark.