It feels obvious to say this, but getting a divorce isn't easy. I should know—I've been there. About five years ago, I said the magic words: "I want a divorce." The process took us awhile, and it was a bumpy ride. And if I had to guess, your experience won't exactly be smooth sailing, either. No matter how amicable the split, divorce is still an emotionally draining and difficult-to-navigate process. 

However, there are steps you can take to make the process less painful. Here you'll find the roadmap I wish I’d had before my separation; consider it your beginner’s guide to divorce.