Questions for a happy life

Living the life of your dreams goes beyond ticking things off your to-do list (after all, grocery runs, house repairs and work projects are only so inspiring). Instead, it's about developing the confidence and wisdom to follow the whisperings of your heart. So what do you think your real purpose is?

If, like most of us, you don't really know, you need to take time for introspection. Be willing to look at your life as a journey that is much bigger, and has much more purpose. To get started on your path, it's important to ask the right questions. Try these to help move you in the right direction.

Am I happy?

It's a simple question — and it's the basis for life. Find a moment of silence and ask, "Am I happy?" Pay attention to any physical sensations that come up. Do you feel a sense of contraction or expansion in your body? Does your heart feel light and open? Living a more purposeful life is a feeling thing, not a thinking thing. So when you ask yourself about your happiness, try to feel the answer within.

How often do I take time out?

This isn't about taking a week-long holiday—it could just be 60 seconds of quiet time. Soulful living is about slowing down and developing awareness of the present moment. Our non-stop lives have a tremendous velocity and it's often not until we crash and burn that we're forced to pause, breathe and consider the bigger picture.

Do I view life as abundant?

It's one thing to want abundance —of love, health, success—but it's another to really believe you can have it. We're taught that the world is full of 'not enoughs', when actually, the universe is abundant in all forms. Look at where you place your attention: do you tend to complain about what you didn't get instead of embracing what you did?

Do I believe I can achieve my dreams?

Your thoughts, actions and emotions all determine what your life looks like. When you don't believe you're powerful, you allow others to hold the keys to your life and happiness. And when you allow others to hold the power, you limit the options available to you. The lesson? Believe in yourself.

Do I always expect a certain outcome?

You can't fill a cup that's already full. That means you can't approach a new situation, relationship or job with what you think will likely happen. When you do that, you're not leaving room for the unexpected, the delightful and even the miraculous. Try starting from a place of 'Maybe I don't know'. It allows you to be open to something or someone being different from what you experienced in the past. When you approach life in this open way, you also allow the universe to conspire on your behalf. So be empty of expectations. The universe will always dream bigger than you.

Can I let the past go?

Too often we make choices informed by negative experiences that we're trying to avoid recreating (yup, once bitten, twice shy!). To add to that, we often end up closing ourselves off from new experiences, adventures and even people. Ultimately, there is freedom in forgiving, letting go and transcending pain, so instead of reliving old trauma or hurts, keep your focus on what you do want.

Does my head or heart rule?

The heart never lies; the head does. We can doubt and rationalise almost anything, because the mind likes stability. The heart, however, is non-linear. So while our minds often constrict us into believing it's best to not take risks, our hearts always knows the way to happiness.

What are the greatest wounds that I've healed?

Think of the moments you've been the most tested. These experiences also offer you tremendous gifts, no matter how deep the pain. They provide clues to what you're meant to learn in life and how you can share the gifts of those lessons with others. They are your strength—and also your potential.